I’m so glad you are here.

Even though it’s hard to ask for help.

*Especially because it’s hard to ask for help.


And most of the time you are OK. But there’s still a lot that’s not OK. Building a family is hard!

Your mind and body aren’t always going to function in the ways which others have deemed “normal.” 10-20% of known pregnancies end in loss. Going through fertility treatments, adoption, or surrogacy can be physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially draining. You may fear fewer opportunities if you’re honest about your family-building goals at work. Your partner (and yes, even your precious child) can be a pain in your postpartum butt!

It’s often easier to just say that you’re doing well than to admit that you need a break. Because when you are honest—here we go again—the advice comes cascading in.

“You should… quit your job, take a vacation, try yoga, eat this, don’t eat that, see XYZ doctor/specialist/alternative practitioner/spiritual guide.”

It’s not just annoying, it’s maddening.

Perhaps you’ve even tried every diet, exercise, medication and meditation practice you can to “fix” yourself, but it hasn’t lasted because you can’t work yourself out of burnout! And you’re not broken. Just maybe a little messy (or maybe a lot). And isolated. And tired. And sick of being told “don’t worry, you’ll get through this.”

I know this because I’ve been there. I’ve spent nearly all my life doing all the things other people told me I should do to find purpose and peace, and if I’m really honest, few things actually helped.

If you’ve made it this far, you know that quick fixes don’t work for you. You’re the type of person who wants to sort through the piles of junk you’ve been told and clarify what matters most to you so that you can finally find lasting wellbeing—even if your life and family-building journey look differently than you imagined it would.

In 2018-2019, I lost two babies. I knew pregnancy loss was common, but like so many others, I didn’t think it could happen to me. Twice. I was young, active, into granola and kale and healthy stuff! What was I doing wrong? Grandmother told me that I need to take more vitamins. The doctor told me not to worry so much. The therapist told me to breathe. The acupuncturist gave me herbs. Work gave me the rest of the week off.

I knew something needed to change. And what I needed most was to sort through the advice and find my voice in all this clamor.

And once I started this journey, the smoke began to clear and I became overwhelmed (in the best way) with the amount of people out there who really didn’t care about what they “should” be doing. They were pioneers, protectors, explorers, adventurers. They were empty nesters, foster parents, adoptive parents, and gestational parents through many different conception methods. No matter what they had gone through, they were at peace with who they were along the journey.

You don’t have to do everything. You don’t have to be everything for everyone.

Not here. Here, you get to be you. That’s all. And that’s enough.

If you’re still reading, I want you to know there is a way through. Building a family may not look like you thought it would—but it is completely possible for you to discover a version of parenthood that you could have never even dreamed of.

Through this journey, I learned that my fertility challenges happened because of my body’s wisdom, not because I am broken. I learned how to ask for help (and how to kindly tell others when they’re not helping). And I finally learned how to sort through the abundance of information and find my way to getting and staying well. It wasn’t until I felt like my body was a safe place that I tried again, got pregnant, and stayed pregnant (really, just genetics).

I made it past some major milestones in my pregnancy, but that didn’t make me any more of a momma than I already was. Children or not, we are parents at every phase of this journey.

So, I’m not here to give you more advice, share a 12-step plan to stress-free living, or sell a magic baby-making pill.

One thing I can guarantee, is a coaching foundation based in research-based positive psychology and motivational interviewing as well as a holistic commitment to meeting you wherever you are. Building authentic relationships are at the core of how this works and why this work matters.

Whether you’re deciding whether or not you want to have a child some day, trying to conceive, thinking about or undergoing fertility treatments, exploring your options, or are already a parent—The Mindful Momma is here to help you find what works best for you and how to make it last.

Once you clarify what a mindful parenting life looks like for you and start practicing it (piece by piece), you will see extraordinary changes in the way you feel inside your body and with the people around you.

Fun Facts

I just
became a “dog person” in 2020 🐶

I’ve been a certified rock climbing instructor since 2014 ⛰

I get the feeling that I have to poop every time I go into a bookstore (especially used bookstores 💩)

I went to school for professional writing, but couldn’t handle all the screen time 🖥

I’m a volunteer crisis counselor for the Crisis Text Line 🚨

The first words I spoke to my (now) husband were, “I like bread” (he was a baker 😉)

Not-So-Fun-But-Still-Important Facts

San Diego State University 
B.A. Professional Writing Studies 

Mayo Clinic Wellness Coach Training Program
Mayo Clinic Certified Wellness Coach 

National Board for Health and Wellness Coaches
National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach (NBC-HWC)

Mental Health First Aid
Mental Health First Aid Certified

Collaborate Consulting
All Pregnant People: Trans fertility for birthworkers

Mindful Schools
Mindfulness in the Classroom Teacher

Our Yoga Studio in Downtown Bozeman – Wander Birth Photo

What’s the difference between a therapist and a wellness coach?

Wellness coaches and psychotherapists both work within the art and science of facilitating change, however; there are many distinctions. A major difference between therapy and coaching is that a coach should acknowledge trauma if it arises, but only a therapist should deeply explore or treat it with a client. Or in other words, from the article, Coaching vs Psychotherapy in Health and Wellness: Overlap, Dissimilarities, and the Potential for Collaboration, “Coaches evoke and inquire; therapists also intervene” (Jordan; Livingstone, 2013).

Once a relationship is established, some sensitive topics may arise outside of my expertise, such as disordered eating, PTSD, clinical depression or anxiety. Some symptoms may indicate something deeper going on and it would be outside of my scope of practice to diagnose or treat you. If this occurs, I will directly refer you to someone whose job it is to help in these areas.

As a crisis counselor with Mental Health First Aid training, I’ve learned my limitations. Actively listening and being honest and authentic about my scope of practice can support the coaching relationship and help individuals receive the support they need.

I love working in tandem with mental-health-care professionals and have witnessed firsthand the benefits of working with both a therapist and a coach. If getting rid of disease doesn’t make one healthy—as positive psychology suggests—we can work on integrating our goals with a health coach while we are healing through therapy. There’s a lot of untapped potential for collaboration. And if you think that a therapist or other type of specialist is a better fit after all you’ve gone through—I can help you find someone amazing.

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